Do you believe reality is in fact…real? It’s concrete and black and white? Or do you believe “reality” is what we make of it?

The grey:

Grey is the love, the humanity, the connection in-between us.

Life is what we make of it, being empathetic bridges the gap of black and white judgment. My black may be different than your black, and so ultimately we have to be able to see from a different perspective.

Life is not black and white in all things, but there are facts of life.

Not everything can be black and white because no one can be all-knowing.


What is our reality? and how is our reality limiting us?

Reality for you is different for someone else. Obviously everyone’s reality is going to be different, different does not mean right or wrong.

Everyone has subconscious limiting beliefs that don’t know are limiting them. We embrace the reality we want for the sake of self-preservation.

Just because we don’t see that something is possible, doesn’t mean that it isn’t.

Truth is, no one has all the facts. We know what we know.


We can understand there is a reality that fact is fact, but even if a situation is final, we have the choice about how we react to those situations. This is what can change the expectation for our situations.



Everything is perception

-Two people can look at the same situation and react completely different.

-Gratitude is key to changing your perspective.

-Let’s have grace to think of ourselves differently to create a different reality for our lives!


There’s hope in the fact that your perceptions and other people’s perceptions don’t necessarily have to be true. Practice telling yourself the positive things you want to be true, even if your whole life, you’ve believed they aren’t.

Everything is a choice, and we can always change what goes into our mind.

Show Transcription

[00:01] Welcome to The Ziglar Show, where we inspire your true performance. I’m your host Kevin Miller and today we are talking about…reality. Is it real? Or is it only as you perceive it and can you alter it…right now? Are you limiting yourself and merely need a paradigm shift to dramatically catapult your life for the better…in a short amount of time? This is a continuation of show 524 where we listened to a clip from Zig Ziglar on our true potential. He referenced the true story of a guy who bought land and at a later date discovered oil on his land and from it, Spindletop, one of the largest gushers of all time in America. And it made the guy a millionaire. But what Zig poses is the guy owned the oil day one, but it took finding the oil and bringing it to the surface, to realize the potential. So what about us? We have potential that must be discovered and worked out to bring forth and realize.  We asked people on Facebook about their potential and Ziglar speaker and presenter Michelle Prince and I had a great discussion reading through the comments. IF you missed it, go listen to show 524.

[00:54] Today, coming from the same message from Zig, I asked on my agentkmiller Facebook page, “Do you believe reality is in fact…real? It’s concrete and black and white? Or do you believe “reality” is what we make of it?”

[01:08] If our reality today is what we believe about ourselves, but the truth is we have potential inside us that could be tapped, then we are still the same person, the same reality, that can be questioned in regards to…is it really…real? Or just what we perceive it to be?

[01:31] Of course we got great comments, and Michelle Prince and I are going to take you through them in hopes of helping you alter what you perceive as…your reality.

[02:02] Ok folks, let’s dive into this question of…reality

[02:23] Wendy Carolyn: I believe fact is fact. Most things are concrete black and white. Especially if one lives by biblical principles. However, she added another comment after reading this from Ashley.

[02:39] Ashley: I firmly believe that life is NOT B/W. Empathy allows us to see the gray in things – where, even if we don’t agree with someone’s choices, if we can empathize, we see there are so many facets of it all. I remember how my black and white judgements on people were great…until it became personal. Until I saw the controversial issues in people I loved, cared about, and wanted to understand. And I recognized that the b/w judgements we bring – especially when cloaked in religion, become more of a divider than a uniter. Wars are fought over black and white. People connect when we allow the gray in and we realize the humanity in us all. I agree with Gerry Baird above – so much of life is what we choose to make of it. I can bring up every controversial b/w conservative issue and see both sides. When we put ourselves in another’s shoes and empathize, we start to bridge the divide and see that love doesn’t segregate by black and white.

[03:42] After that Wendy again said:

[03:47] Wendy: I will clarify that while I do believe everything is black and white — the gray matter that connects everything is called LOVE. We are called to Love like Christ loves. Even though my biblical worldview is very black and white, it does not give me a right to hate, be self-righteous, prideful, religious (like a Pharisee). Love is what binds everyone together. (IMO)

[04:13] That is a lot, a lot of different views, a lot of different both sides of the coin. Well it is and obviously you know my perspective in posting the question was thinking about our own reality but this is talking about the reality of others and accepting that, well let’s talk about the grey. And I did, I do naturally and really come from a desire to know black and white and I think we all want to. I want to know what is the best decision, the healthiest decision and that’s going to be my black and white and if a rock carrot is better then you know physically, healthily better than a pop tart, then that’s black and white, right.

[05:27] You know when and what Ashley said I tend to to lean a little bit more toward what she said because I think yes and I agree with you, we do want to try to make things black and white. But really life is not black and white and everything, now certain things yes but look what’s right to me may not be right to you. So my black might not be you’re black and I learned the phrase when I was in sixth grade from my sixth grade history teacher that different strokes for different folks. Meaning what’s right for me is not going to be right for you and I feel like in certain topics and we’re not going to get all political here but in politics and in religion and in certain topics, we get so hung up on our side of the discussion that we can’t see that there might be another way or I tend to maybe this is a cop out, but that is just my personality. I tend to go more toward the gray because if you sit down, if I sit down with two different people and one person has this point they’re black and the other person has it you point but you know the other side, I can see both sides and I can understand where they’re coming from I don’t necessarily have to agree with but but my point has is just because you feel that you’re right does not mean you’re right for everyone.

[06:52] Gerry Baird: It is absolutely what we make of it. On the surface it seems humans are similar. Beneath the surface, we are vastly different. There is the loving person who accepts everyone, the miserable person whose life is good but he can’t see it. Our reactions determine our experiences of life, let the facts be what they are. Viktor Frankl explains this extremely well in his book “Man’s Search for Meaning”.

[07:59] One thing that comes to mind and this is something I talk about when I talk on the topic of beliefs and the core beliefs that we hold onto in our thoughts and how that really drives so much of our decisions and the example we always give is, let’s say you were raised in a family that your whole family believe that the earth was flat. I mean they were adamant about it, that’s from birth, that’s all they talked about, your insurance, your friends, your cousins, everybody, everybody was in agreement that the earth was flat and then you find yourself years later in a conversation with another group of people and they’re saying what are you talking about, of course the earth isn’t flat. It was proven that it’s not flat like how could you believe that but yet that person was so sure that was reality, that it was flat. Just because we believe it, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true.

[13:24] Jeshua Moore: I think that there are some things that just can’t be changed. God is God no matter what you think. And sin is sin. But I don’t think you can say it’s black and white. Life in a lot of ways is what you make of it. I’m in Africa right now meeting families that are so happy living in a 10×10 room, and are cooking outside. And let me tell you it’s HOT here. But in America I meet people that aren’t happy if it takes to long to get food at the restaurant with AC, WiFi, and comfortable chairs. You can just be someone who the world is out to get. Or you could be someone who gets blessed everyday. Just depends on what you looking for. I think the people here prove that. Because they have way more right to say the world just didn’t give them much luck. But when I ask them how their day is going they say “I give thanks to God for everything”.

[15:56] It is and not to for those who believe it is a one way or the high way but I just think that the more we can see you know the more we can be understanding of how other people think in that, it’s OK that they think differently, different does not mean wrong. But it’s hard, it’s really really hard sometimes to do but I think it would make for a just much happier existence and better relationships and one thing you know I think I don’t know if it was windy or Cherry who said it but you know bringing faith into the picture and about love and really God does not call us to judge, that’s his job. So whether there were right or they’re wrong or whoever the end of the day calls us to love and love is really I believe the shade of gray.

[16:51] Dan Miller: I think our “reality” is 90% personal perception. Give 100 people the same thing and you’ll get 100 different reactions. The exact same situations make one person happy, another sad. What one person sees as “sin” another person sees as reasonable choice. And so it goes………

[18:58] It’s very much the placebo effect if you think about it and there have been studies done, I don’t know if it was Norman Vincent Peale who initially had this or could have been Zig, I don’t recall where I read this but it was a placebo effect of certain kids that were put into a classroom but teacher was told that every single one of these kids is extremely bright. Their test scores are off the charts, they’re brilliant and you know what I’m talking about. And that was her reality, that’s what she believed and so therefore she treated them a certain way she treated them like brilliant kids and at the end of the year each one of them you know had all these great successes come to find out. They were not the overachievers in fact they were the underachievers. So it’s kind of like you know again is perception, if she thought they were the end or achievers would she have taught them the way she taught extreme brilliant kids. So it’s that placebo effect and I think the more we can be aware of that, that’s just opens up our mind that just because you think it doesn’t mean it’s right.

[22:14] Karen Schneider Little: I believe it’s a combination! There are many factors that go into reality, and depending on what you know, whether you are an over thinker, and how you respond to reality, determines how it is for you! As someone said, facts are facts! Meaning: If someone loses their house, the fact is that their house is gone! One person’s reality may be that they have been given a chance for a great adventure, while another person’s reality may be that they are being “punished” somehow and are a victim of their circumstance!

[23:20] Tony Elam: Reality may be fact but I believe it’s larger than any one of us. With only a glimpse of reality we have a lot to interpret and experience. So I think it can also be what we make of it. Nobody has all the facts.

[23:33] I like just that Michelle you spoke to that a minute ago and I was thinking about it of we just we know what we know. So how can we say that this is reality when it’s impossible for us to be God, to be omniscient, to know it all, it’s the holiday time we always watch Lord of the Rings, my family does and we love the character of Gandalf you know he’s the the wise, the wizard and in a sense we give him that perspective of a god of an omniscient thing and yet he is so quick to go. I have no idea what does he know, I don’t know what to do and I’m scared and I’m fallible and and you know even he does not have all the facts. That seem simple enough to get us beyond how can it be black and white when there’s no way for us to be all knowing.

[24:25] David Story: I remember thinking the world was black and white. My world was tiny. It was easy for me to judge people who were poor or needy as getting what they deserved for the bad choices they made. Everyone doesn’t have the same choices. I really don’t have all the information. There are no simple answers. I’ve learned that some things aren’t as black and white as I was told. When it comes to faith. I’ve read that all the law and the prophets are fulfilled by loving God with all my heart soul mind and strength. And that I show my love for God, who I can see by loving my neighbour as myself. My world is much larger now and full of opportunities…

[25:05] I mean again we’re going back and forth and talking about ourselves and what we believe about ourselves and that perspective, that reality, that black and white, and then also how we view is interesting to me. I didn’t intend for this how much focus is given to the reality that we may experience of somebody else and giving grace and acceptance for that, which then by proxy changes our reality as well.

[30:38] So are you thinking differently about your “reality”? I hope you are further in considering you can change your reality and therefore results, by believing you have control. If you got value, please Let us know by leaving a rating and review in iTunes. Coming up in show 528, we bring you…Rich Roll. You may know him from his top ranked podcast, “The Rich Roll Podcast”. Rich is a world-renown, plant-based ultra-endurance athlete, in-demand public speaker, wellness advocate, bestselling author and inspirational hero to a global audience of wellness seekers as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living.

[31:38] After succumbing to the sedentary throes of overweight middle age, at age 40, Rich made a decision to overhaul his life, adopting a plant-based diet and reinventing himself as an ultra-distance endurance athlete. Just a few years later, Rich stunned the multisport community with top finishes at the Ultraman World Championships, a 320-mile, 3-day double ironman-distance triathlon widely considered one of the most gruelling endurance events on the planet.

[32:31] You’ll get massive inspiration on what is possible for you from this show. Until then, thanks for letting me walk with you as we inspire our true performance…together!