Strengths and weaknesses vary for everyone, but both aspects of our life can show how to be successful through the way you are individually wired.
Let your weaknesses tell of where you can be intentional in areas of your life that need adjustment, and let your unique abilities and strengths become the avenue for you to be successful and help others succeed.
The idea of seasonality: Balanced living does not mean spending an equal amount of intentionality and energy in each area of your life, but rather discerning where adjustments need to be made in certain areas such as health, work, spirituality, relationships, etc.
Are you the kind of person to always think about your weaknesses? And never focus on your strengths, the things in your life that are going well? If we do look at our weaknesses, it can be a telling of where we need to make adjustments.
- Comment: “With gratitude… that is one of my core values, or at least that’s something I say, so if I notice that I’m getting off track and I’m weak, then, yeah, I am gonna try to say, like, okay, I’m gonna need to make some adjustments here because, yeah, that’s not the kind of life that I want to live.”
It’s actually okay to give up, as long as you’re not giving up your end goal.
To reach a goal, you have to be willing to be flexible and adapt.
Allow yourself to find alternative ways to do things.
“I actually think it’s a big mistake to never give up. We have this in our culture: winners never quit. I think winners quit all the time. Winners are not afraid to say, ‘I thought that was the right thing but actually it’s not, I’m going to try something else.’ I think there’s a lot of strength in that.”
Expand your vision of the kind of entrepreneur you can be. It’s okay not to be the typical door-to-door salesman.
[00:14] Welcome to The Ziglar Show. I’m your host, Kevin Miller, and in this show we bring you part two with Chris Guillebeau to look at his success habits. Chris leads and influences the world in nonconformity, travel hacking, business start-up, and now, the Side Hustle. His brand-new book we dug into in the show just prior to this one, #486. But what about his own personal development story? In this show you’ll hear how Chris doesn’t like the term “balance,” he likes “alignment” and “seasonality.” Being grateful is a key goal for Chris. He worries about disappointing people and letting them down, and is concerned about where he’s falling short. He’s not strong in details, follow-up, and building a company, but his strength is figuring out alternative ways of doing things and helping people fast-track their progress. His goals are not flexible, but the strategy or tactics are. He says, “I am a 100% introvert. My default mode is being by myself. I do events and look forward to them, but at the end of the night I need to go be by myself.” He talks about taking risks, but for him only very calculated risks.
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[01:28] Here, then, I bring you Chris Guillebeau.
[01:31] So, Chris, looking at the Ziglar Wheel of Life — and the focus is not success in just one area; obviously, we have that. And then following up to the end of the world for another area, that is not a good picture of success. Nobody is perfect, but we often find people have their own strengths and they come naturally to them. And sometimes can over-compensate a little bit to shore up those weak areas. But, look at these areas of, you know, mind and health and relationships and work. Where would you say is a natural strength for me?
[02:14] I love that model; I am a Zig fan from a long time. I am also very much in overcompensation model, like, I have learned over a few years that I am good in a few things, I have a pretty short list and I am gonna focus on these things, not as good as others. As for the broad categories, you know, work relationships, spirituality, health, wellness, etc, I don’t know if there is one over others that stood up on my whole lifetime. I kind of feel that each one of those areas id doing well. It is kind of a life journey, constantly tries to align yourself and make balance.
[03:21] So, looking at the different areas of life, do you find that sometimes, instead of every day, I spend an equal proportion of time on every single one, or there is a season for that. May be a month, a quarter, or a week that I am really holding here, and I kind of let these other ones going back, is that something relevant to life?
[03:41] I am very much about seasonality for sure. For me, it wouldn’t make sense giving 25% of my time in a day, and so, if the time we are talking about I am on this really big book tour, I am doing around 100 cities, I am not doing any exclusively but at least for the first batch of 35 cities on-road for one day. That is not normal, and I can’t do this all the time. This is my book tour, and I am having a book writing tour where I am not travelling at all. And then I also spend some time looking back on my goal: am I on the right track, is there any gap between what I said I believe in and what I am doing? So, I think it is seasonality for me.
[04:50] So, when you look at your personal development journey and talk about gratitude, do you find yourself going after those areas where you feel like you do need to be sure of that?
[05:14] Yeah, it is interesting, but it really depends on what the things are. Like, in the career stuff, addressing your weaknesses is the best approach. But I would say for the example we just used, for gratitude things, if I know that I am getting off my track, I know where I am weak, yes, then I am gonna need and make some adjustments here. Because it is not the life I want to live.
[06:18] In your platform where you have a big audience, I mean, you do influence a lot of people, is there any area you find yourself in that role which has more responsibility tied to it with a worry or concern?
[06:40] There are so many areas. I feel constantly that I am worried about disappointing people. I am worried about letting people down. I am trying to being accessible, I mean, any people can write me emails. I am available on social media, I think that it is important. I never want to lose that value.
[07:35] I have heard — somebody recently, when we talked about in the interview, we found a lot of people in that arena who also are struggling with this. I heard a couple of them feel like “a fraud” and being an imposter. Is that coming to you?
[07:58] Yes, all the time.
[07:59] In the show we just did before of this, and we talked about Side Hustle — you know, the entrepreneur, the journey, the spirits, things of that nature — where not everybody has to be entrepreneurs but just looking at the aspects, so, in your arena, when you say “I am an entrepreneur,” I know that means you are not the expert of every area. Where do you say your primary strength or ability lies?
[08:40] Yes, I don’t think — it is definitely not all the details, it is definitely not all the follow-ups, it is also not like building a company. I would say that the strength I have in this is doing things in alternative ways. You know, there is always a conventional way of doing something and also an alternative way of doing it. It is not that the alternative way is always better, but often it is a lot faster and you can save money and hustle a lot of time.
[09:56] I am curious about when you say you find alternative ways of doing things. Is that you, or is it more of, like, okay, this doesn’t work, let’s just think out of the box and think in a different way?
[10:19] I guess for me the goal is not very flexible, but the strategy and tactics are. So, I actually think it is a big mistake to never give up on something. In our culture we say winners never quit, but I think winners always quit. I am never afraid to say yes, that is the right thing to do, but it is not right for me and I am gonna try something different.
[11:04] Friends, I trust you are finding value so far in this conversation. To connect with Chris, go to ChrisGuillebeau.com. You can get his new book, Side Hustle, there or wherever you get books. On Amazon, as of this recording, it’s sitting at #237 in all books; that’s impressive. And you can submit your own side hustle to Chris at sidehustleschool.com.
[14:00] Speaking to, you are talking to so many people, whether they are entrepreneurs doing a side hustle thing, people get that being an entrepreneur you have to be super -going, a big risk taker. Where do you think you fit in?
[14:43] Let’s separate risk from it, as I think it is different. Let’s do the introvert first. On the spectrum, I fall 100% on the introvert side. I am not an extrovert at all. I think people sometimes make a mistake thinking if people can speak, and being comfortable on the social side, then they must be extroverts. For extroverts it is always, where do you find energy, what is your default notes? My default note is that I am always being myself. I do events and I like them, and I look forward to them, and then at night I just have to go back to the hotel and just be myself. Some people ask me to join them, but I am not comfortable with that. So this is my introvert side. For all the introvert and sensitive people out there, they can succeed too.
[16:32] Hey, Chris, thank you so much for giving us a little behind-the-scenes, and I think it will help people to accept. Thanks for doing that, and being here, and sharing your heart.